I will share to you the content of this letter. It’s from my mother. I asked if who gave this to her but she forgot. Anyway…
I realize that even how many times you got hurt don’t make it to stop you by falling in love again. Let your soul be free and be loved but don’t forget to put a boundaries or limitations to yourself.
Here’s the content:
” Love is one of the questions we have attempted to answer in more than one way. This only shows that it is quite impossible to grasp and comprehend the totality of its being. But we try, don’t we? We try and find out by loving and by being love. We try and find out by getting hurt . We try and find out by rising and learning. We try and find out.
When you enter a relationship, when you commit yourself, you must always bear in mind that you are also sharing part of yourself to a stranger who by mere chance or destined fate you happened to like and “LOVE”. In doing so, you take a risk a great risk. He is a different person. He is definitely not your reincarnation. This is why you shouldn’t expect him to be like you, to possess the same thought to own the same emotions. You love him in his totality as a person. Even in mutual (platonic) friendship, growth is brought about by your differences which in one way or the other cultivate the friendship. It is also important to remember that trust is a vital element of any relationship – unconditional trust… no if’s, no but’s.
I believe in the sincerity of your feelings, I believe in your sincerity as a person. Like any of us, you are capable of loving and I would like to believe that you are worthy of being love in return. You are a promised of life. You are to have the best.
When you love, honestly love, then you must be willing to sacrifice. There are times when hurts go so deep, when the pain is almost unbearable, when you are about to give up. But loving is not giving up so easily. It is being there when all have gone, when there is very a little strength left, when it is too much to stand. Loving is trusting. Loving is letting be.
There is really no difference between the as-a-matter-of- way and the romantic way. You might just be in a different plane of understanding which causes the difference in interpretation. If he says he is honest with you, then don’t kill yourself by saying he’s not. How do you know? His past experiences are not enough proof (they aren’t) to doubt him. If he can offer his as-a-matter-of-fact-way of loving to the best, then accept it. And if you can love him the romantic way in return, then do so. Please don’t measure the exchange. Just be honest with each other and have open channel of communication (constantly) where is a free sharing of ideas. No if’s, no but’s.
Nobody promised you a rose garden. But you are a promise. Get the best out of life. Love and get hurt. Get hurt and learn. Learn and love again. It is all a cycle my friend. It is a cycle of being. Experience the cycle.”